Why Men Need Love Lab

Men don't like to waste time. That's why it should be no surprise that online dating is overwhelmingly more popular among men versus women. In fact, last year a research firm GlobalWebIndex surveyed 32 countries, and found that 62% of dating app users worldwide are men. According to a PEW Research Center article published this year, 17% of US adult men and 14% of US adult women have tried online dating.

Why do you think its more appealing to men than women?

Six-in-ten (non-users) agree that online dating is more dangerous than other ways of meeting people.

The number one, absolute, most important criteria a woman has when it comes to dating online is trust. Period. The same PEW study above reports that,

Some 53% of women who have used online dating agree that it is more dangerous than other ways of meeting people, substantially higher than the 38% of male online daters who agree with this statement.

If you can make a woman you met online feel safe instead of sorry, your chances are much better that she'll meet sooner than later.  

That's why men need Love Lab.

This is how it works. Get verified by proving your email, social media, phone number, photo, age and identity quickly and easily. Then you can authorize an anonymous criminal background check for free! We'll display on your profile your level of trust. You decide whether or not you want to be searchable based on your email, phone number or a personalized Love Lab ID which can be changed to something simple and easy to remember in the Settings of the app.

After you've verified yourself you can use your Love Lab ID, email and/or phone number to link to your profile on our platform. If someone were to search for you in our app or on our website you would be discovered or notified based on your settings. With guest mode and the web based profiles on http://lovelab.com the people you want to prove yourself to don't even need to verify themselves to see that you've been verified already.

Don't Get Catfish'd

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Once you find someone on Love Lab or they find you, with a tap of a button a request to chat can be sent. Then you have the ability to text message and send photos and videos that must be taken using the camera in the app, which will disappear after the receiver has looked at them once. 

That's right fellas. We solved this problem...for free. Get verified at http://lovelab.com/app.

 

We're Relaunching and We're Verifying Everyone for Free

Online dating is amazing. Offline dating isn't bad either. You can meet the next love of your life on a dating app, in a bar, at a networking event, on Facebook, through a friend or like I did; on a bus. But if you've dated much at all, I'd be willing to bet you've had enough "Catfish", imposters, frauds, creeps and weirdos to last you a lifetime. 

The problem is you never really know who you're dating until you've taken a close look.

Not everyone we meet is worth our while. But its very time consuming and can be costly to research someone, Facebook, Google, LinkedIn and Instagram them, so you can somehow identify and even background check them if its that important to you. Most online criminal background checks cost at least $25 per person per check. They're limited in their scope and they may not even pertain to the actual individual you think it does. The process for proving someone is who they say they are, looks like their photos, isn't lying about their age and can pass a simple online criminal background check has been a painful one...until now. 

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The new and improved Love Lab® will allow you to see if someone you meet is who they say they are, looks like their photo, isn't lying about their age, and can pass an online criminal background check for free. Its not perfect, but it beats the alternatives. 

Imagine this scenario. You meet someone online or in a bar. They seem cute. The conversation appears to be going well. They want to switch to text messaging so you can arrange a time to get together for a date. So they give you their phone number. You visit our website lovelab.com or open our iPhone or Android app and type it in to a search. If they've been verified you'll see to what extent and you can request to chat with them on our app by sending a Match Request. Now without them having your phone number, last name or any personally identifying information they can see that you've proved you're the person in your picture, you aren't lying about your age or identity, and presumably, you've passed an instant online criminal background check. Not enough? Trade disappearing photo and video messages to be sure that what you see is what you'll get. 

What's new?

  • We replaced Contact Codes with text message and email verification. Now you can pass Contact Proof by authenticating your mobile number and email address.
  • If you don't like the Love Lab ID we give you, now you can change it to something easier to remember. 
  • Decide if or how you want others to be able to look you up on Love Lab by changing your search settings.
  • If your background check returns any information we'll show you and only you the results. Save it. Share it. Do whatever you want. It's your information.
  • Want to spread the word and help us in authenticating dating? Anonymously invite anyone in your address book to prove themselves for free. 
  • Just checking to see if they've been verified? Use Guest Mode to look around. Invite others and search without having to verify yourself first.

If you want to help put an end to dating deception spread the word and tell everyone you know about Love Lab®.

Tinder Ditches Moments

Last month Tinder suddenly and subtly discontinued Moments. They also removed the “Last Active” feature that showed the last time a user was on the app. Wondering why?

Moments

Tinder was the first dating app to offer ephemeral messaging. For those of you who aren't hip to tech talk, "ephemeral" means disappearing...like Snapchat. People were able to post photos that only their matches were able to see. These photos couldn't be sent individually. They had to be shared with all of their matches at once. 

At first, I thought this had to be a move to prevent, or at least stymie some of the more explicit stuff (dick pics) that people would post. 

Life on Tinder became so perverse and so unsavory that it was single handedly credited for bringing about the "Dawn of the Dating Apocalypse" by Nancy Jo Sales in her infamous Vanity Fair article

There are countless Instagram accounts such as "Tinder Nightmares", "Tinder Fails" and "Tinder Creeps" dedicated to the travesties of Tinder. It appears that women experience a catharsis through sharing their horror stories.

It would seem that Tinder realized they could never escape the label of being the quintessential "hookup app" if they didn't do away with this feature. At the end of the day, if people wanted to sext each other they should feel free to do so. With the anonymity and exclusivity that Love Lab offers you can feel comfortable sending someone a photo or video of whatever you want, and if you or they send something you or they didn't want or ask to see just "unmatch" and you or they will never be able to reach the other again.

Last Active

As a matchmaker and coach I'm always helping my clients deal with the anxiety they experience when knowing that the person they're dating is "active" on dating sites. Tinder originally offered up this information just like its parent company, Match.com does to let users know when the person they matched up with, or may match up with, was last on the app. 

So why would Tinder remove "last active"? Two reasons. First, they realized that in order to increase usage and overall activity on the app they must find a way to encourage the users who are already seeing someone exclusively or already in a relationship to go on the app. To do that they had to hide their last activity to others. Secondly, other apps like Bumble (which was started by a disgruntled Tinder co-founder who happened to be the only female co-founder) suggest the most popular profiles on their app first and foremost. Most of these users aren't even active and people knew that, they would stop using an app. In a classic case of monkey see, monkey do, Tinder realized that its in their best interest to promote the most popular profiles regardless of when they were last active. 

No matter which app, site, or service you use to meet people if you want to be sure they are a real person, who looks like their photo, is not lying about their age and can pass a criminal background check use Love Lab. Its free.

Love Lab for Android is finally here

Hopefully, you’ve heard the good news by now: Love Lab just released the Android version of our app. 

Love Lab is not just another dating app. It's meant to complement every single dating site, service, app, and any other method of meeting someone that exists.

All users on Love Lab have a link that can be shared with anyone, anywhere, so you know your matches are who they say they are. How do we do this? Through our 5 levels of trust. Take our CEO, Steve Ward, for example. Here's how he "Leveled Up" to gain trust in his own app:

1 Social Proof (check!) Steve has connected his LL account to Facebook.

2 Photo Proof (check!) On his profile, you can see “Love Lab Photo Proof” badge that he earned by comparing his profile photo to an instant selfie. This prevents people from using photos that are too old, or look nothing like them, so you know they look just like their profile pic ;)

3 Contact Proof (check!) Steve added a friend (or a potential match) who can verify that he is the same person he says he is in his profile.

4 Identity Proof (check!) Steve knows himself very well. He was able to answer a few basic questions about himself that only he (or a close friend) would know the answers to. Good job Steve!

5 Background Proof (uh, about that…) Unfortunately, Steve has not achieved level 5. Want to know why? In his younger days Steve was quick the speed demon. Love Lab wants to protect you, so even a speeding ticket may not pass our background check - only squeaky clean backgrounds can earn our highest level of trust. If you’re anything like Steve and you fail the background check, we’ll store the results in the app for your eyes only. This way you can share your results when you meet your matches in person if this is something they were concerned about.

Well, now that you know all about Love Lab, let’s get started in the app! 

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Over 53% of people who met someone online for a date believe that someone seriously misrepresented themselves in their profile. That means over half of the millions of dollars (and hours) we've spent on dinner and a movie (or just coffee if you're like me and want something low risk for the first date) was wasted on someone that deceived them.

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Valentine's Day by the Numbers

Valentine's Day spending is expected to reach $18.9 billion this year. With a "b".

$1.7 billion alone will be spent on candy (that sound? the collective whoosh of all of our New Year's resolutions going out the window).

What makes this holiday so special?

Maybe it's because Valentine's Day is somewhat of a test of a relationship. If you're just starting out, it's a time to test making the next move, or turning up the heat a little bit. If you're well into a relationship, it's a time to test taking the next step or getting more serious. And if you're happily married, it's a time to get creative and keep the spark alive.

Or could it be that the element of surprise is what makes us so giddy for this divisive 'holiday'? It provides us a prompt of sorts to go out on a limb, profess our love, and share our feelings. We anticipate something unexpected, romantic proposals, and flirty gestures. 

After all, men will spend an average of $150 on their sweetie, and 53% of women say they would break up with someone who doesn't get them anything at all.

Re-read that. More than half of women surveyed said they are willing to ditch a potential life mate (not just consider ditching, but actually will break up with someone) if they don't receive something that is made from chocolate and/or shaped like a heart.

Let's look at the rest of the numbers:

Over 61% of American admit to celebrating the holiday.

$13.19 Billion: Average annual Valentine’s Day spending. This year will reach $18.9 billion! That's alotta chocolate.

180 million: Number of Valentine’s Day cards exchanged annually. 85% of them are purchased by women.

196 million: Average number of roses produced for Valentine’s Day. 73% of them are bought by men.

14%: Percent of women who send themselves flowers on Valentine’s Day

$116.21: Amount the average consumer spends on Valentine’s Day

11,000: Average number of children conceived on Valentine’s day

And our favorite: Over 1 in 5 people surveyed will spend an average of $5.28 - totaling $703 million - on their pets. Fido, you'll always be there for me.


Thanks to Statistics Brain and the National Retail Federation for these #'s.


Are you part of the 53% who dumped their honey after receiving nada on Valentine's Day? Datefund with Love Lab and your first date could be on us! Click here to earn drinks, dinner or even a party with Steve Ward!

Welcome to Love Lab

I've been amazed by how much information technology has transformed the dating industry since I first joined my mom at Master Matchmakers® in 2003. MySpace had just come out the year before and Facebook was starting to take hold of college campuses nationwide. BBM (Blackberry Messenger) was all the rage in the corporate world and by the time the iPhone came around in 2007, the mobile revolution had begun. In 2008 Android is launched and in 2009 Twitter turned SMS into a worldwide phenomenon. By 2011 Snapchat had changed the game again bringing ephemeral messaging to the world. And by 2012 the industry was ripe for Tinder to upend the category of dating as a whole. 

In the middle of it all, my mom and I had not-so-quietly taken our matchmaking service nationwide. We built a coaching practice that spans from New Hampshire to Hawaii and produced six successful seasons of a series on VH1 called Tough Love. Along the way we incubated a little web based business of our own called Love Lab®. 

At first, Love Lab was just a way for our well-vetted members and clients to meet one another in a safe, secure, phony-free environment. But then Love Lab evolved into something bigger. My mom always said, "the one thing technology can't replace is personal service" - and I don't disagree, but it sure can make self-help a whole hell of a lot easier. We released a prototype of Love Lab for iPhone and Android in the Fall of 2013 and we learned a lot in the months ahead.

We took a step back and asked our members, what are you most concerned about when it comes to dating? And you answered! All of the big concerns & annoyances people have with other dating sites, we aimed to fix. Not comfortable having to video chat to see what they actually look like? Have them record a disappearing video message instead. This is Love Lab 2.0, and we're here to put trust back into dating.

Download it. Check it out. Any and all feedback is greatly appreciated. We hope you spread the love. Thank you for joining us in authenticating dating.

-Steve Ward, Founder CEO

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